Have you ever fallen into the trap of that all-or-nothing mindset where you feel if you can't do something perfectly, then why even try? Today’s episode is all about embracing a healthier, more compassionate approach I like to call the "For The Most Part" mentality.
Here's a sneak peek at what you can expect to hear inside Episode 47 of the Nourished to Bloom Podcast 👀:
🌟 How to break free from the all-or-nothing mindset
🤗 The importance of celebrating small, everyday victories
🙏 Integrating faith and consistency for long-term wellness
🏃 Embracing grace and compassion in your journey
💪 Practical steps to cultivate the "for the most part" mindset in your daily life
This week, let's challenge ourselves to adopt the "for the most part" mentality, embrace consistency, and show ourselves some grace. Remember – you GOT THIS!
Ready to dive deeper?
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Remember, beauty held is the seed, beauty shared is the flower. It is your time to bloom! 🌸 Let’s get started.
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Have you ever fallen into the trap of that all or nothing
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mindset? Like, if you can't do something perfectly, then
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what's the point of even trying? Well, in today's
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episode, we're going to explore what I believe is a
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healthier and more compassionate approach, one that I like to
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call a, for the most part, mentality. So
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we'll talk about how this mindset can help you embrace
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grace, learn to show up consistently even on the
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days that you don't feel like it, and really learn to grow through
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life's motions without burning out or beating yourself
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up when you can't do it perfectly. So if you've ever been
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ready to break free from that hamster wheel of
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perfection or that all or nothing mindset and to
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really start making meaningful progress in your life, then this
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episode is for you. Let's get started.
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Welcome to the Nourish to Bloom podcast, where your faith meets your
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health. I'm your host, Kara Trochta, a registered dietitian and
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certified Catholic coach, and I'm here to help you cultivate a deeper connection
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with your body, your spirit, and the nourishment that sustains them
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both. In a world filled with noise and
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confusion about food, health and body image, this podcast
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offers truth and healing from a Christ centered perspective.
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Together, we'll untangle the deep roots of diet culture and discover
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what it means to truly care for ourselves through joyful
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nourishment of mind, body and soul. We're here to dive into
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the transformative power of intuitive eating coupled with the rich teachings of our
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Christian faith. With every episode, I'll be cheering you on,
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offering insights, inspiration and practical tools to help you
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heal your relationship with food and embrace the beauty of your
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body as a temple of the Holy Spirit with confidence and
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courage that can. Only be found in Christ. Join
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me as we journey together towards a more holistic approach to wellness, one
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that honors the wisdom of your body as God's creation, the
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teachings of our faith, and the unique purpose you're called to
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fulfill. You were made to bloom,
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to come into full beauty and health in order to bear good fruit
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for the Lord with your life. So if you're ready to nourish your body,
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feed your soul and bloom into the best version of yourself, then you're
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in the right place. And I'm so happy you're here. Welcome
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to Nourish to Bloom, where every day is a sacred
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invitation to thrive. Hey there.
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Welcome back to the Nourish to Bloom podcast. So
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happy to be here with you today. I hope you are off to
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a good start for your week eight. And I kind of want to open
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today's episode, which was really kind of the catalyst for
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today's episode with something that I heard on the radio in
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the last couple of weeks. They were interviewing this singer and
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the conversation was really turning to like, his mindset
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and his work ethic. And specifically
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in this segment about, you know, his work ethic
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when it comes to working out and exercising. And so
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some of the advice that he shared really resonated with me.
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Um, he talked about, you know, starting small and celebrating
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just the tiniest milestones. For example, he,
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he was talking about when a lot of times when people
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start, you know, exercise routine, they, they put it in their head that,
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like, I gotta go run three miles, right? And the day before
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they weren't even running, right? And so instead of feeling like it's gotta be this
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three mile jog on day one, he was really talking about,
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like, just start with a 10 minute walk and use that as
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that first step towards building a running habit. And I
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loved it because it was just such that great reminder that
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oftentimes that thing that we think is just
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too silly to even matter is often really that
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first step that we have to take towards building something
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meaningful. Meaningful or towards reaching that goal.
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Like we, it's funny because so much of our life
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is all about we want to run before we've even learned how to walk,
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right? And I talk about this a lot with clients and
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intuitive eating and setting other goals. But it's like these little
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wins, right? Just these small steps, these little wins that you're getting every
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single day are really what's moving you towards that progress
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to the bigger goal. And these little wins really help show
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you how the Lord is moving in your life and
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how these little, these little progress steps are
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filled with so much gratitude because you are making
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progress. And I just thought it was a really, really good
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perspective. But then on the other hand, some of the things
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that he was saying just didn't quite sit very well with me.
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Things like every setback is a comeback or
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this, you know, push through even when you don't feel like it because you're just
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going to end up regretting it later. And it just, it had
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this like hustle all the time vibe that was coming
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across. And well, I fully know
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that for some people that mindset might work that you
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just push through no matter what, that it's just hustle all the time.
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I've learned that that really doesn't work for me. And I
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suspect that it doesn't work for a lot of people. This just hustle all the
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time, push through no matter what. That like no pain, no gain
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mentality, just, it doesn't work for me. And I found
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that it really doesn't work for a lot of people. But then also
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don't think that it really reflects God's heart of compassion
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and mercy. Instead it is leading to
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burnout. And that all or nothing mentality.
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It's really a very harsh mindset and I think
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it often makes us be mean to ourselves. Like we beat
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ourselves up and if we can't meet that high expectation that
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we've set, we start to identify as failures
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or abandon the goal altogether. You know, just
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jumping to the next thing and then it's just, just like staying stuck on this
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hamster wheel over and over and over again and he can't get off. And I
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think it often, often will creep up and affect us in just
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the small, everyday things. I'm going to use my husband for an
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example. We were driving home from being
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out of town this past weekend and there was some construction
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on the exit that we needed to take. And
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he was, you know, trying to get as far up as he could and then
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get over. And anyway, he just completely missed the ex, so we
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had to reroute. And it was like in that moment, because he
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didn't, you know, take the exit correctly the first time and we had to
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reroute, he just like beat himself up. Like you could just
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see his whole demeanor shift and shut down because he made, he made
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a mistake. And I love, I love my husband dearly. And
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he, and he knows that this is something that comes up for him often, is
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that he just has these very, very high expectations for himself. And
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when he makes just the smallest mistake, he beats himself up. And this is just
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kind of what I'm talking about is when we,
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we don't like to be rerouted or if we don't
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get it right the first time, we beat ourselves up. But that just really
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doesn't reflect on what God teaches us about
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compassion and mercy and even forgiveness.
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And so today I want to talk about a healthier, healthier
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alternative to that all or nothing mindset. And it's
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something that I like to call the for the most part, mentality.
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It's really about understanding what am I doing for the most part
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in all these areas of my life. It's not saying, you know, this is how
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it has to be so rigid every single day. And if I don't check that
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box, then what was even worth it? Right? But it's just understanding
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that, for the most part, these are the things I'm doing on a daily
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basis. This is how I'm. I'm living my life.
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And what I really love about this mindset is that it allows us to
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honor our humanity, to know that
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God knew, knew and created us, knowing that we were going
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to make mistakes, that we are human, and that we're not to get
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things right all the time, but it just allows us to honor ourselves
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and the humanity in which we were created. It allows us
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to embrace grace, to accept grace,
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to ask for grace, and then be able to
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grow through life's motions without losing sight of what
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truly matters. And so this, for the
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most part, mentality is really about building
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consistency, not perfection. It's
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about showing up as the best that you can be in
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each season of life, in each day of your life, knowing
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that it's not going to be perfect every single day,
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and that's okay. And this mindset really honors
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the truth that we are finite beings,
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that we were created with limits, and that those
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limits are not failures. But it's that invitation to
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rely on God. It's that invitation to,
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you know, really offer. Offer ourselves over to the Lord and
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allow him to work and transform in our lives.
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But how do you figure out what that, for the most
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part, mentality looks like in your life? You know, how do
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you know what it is that you're doing for the most part? And this is
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really where that clarity around your goals and as well
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as your identity is so important. Not,
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you know, knowing not just what you're doing, but why you're doing
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those things. It can really help you stay grounded and aligned
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with. With your values. So I'm just going to share an
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example here. So there are definitely days
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when I don't feel like working on my business at all. I
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don't want to work on podcast episodes. I don't want to do emails
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for my business. And sometimes it's because, you know, I've gotten
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into a good book or a new show, and that just feels like it's
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going to be way more fun doing anything that I need to do
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around my house or for my business. But
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if I'm being honest, there's also this part of it
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that, you know, creating a podcast or
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is. Is challenging. Right? And. And the con, creating that content
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is challenging because it requires me to open up,
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you know, and lean into creativity as well as vulnerability.
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And there's this little voice in my head that before I sit down to write
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a podcast or record a podcast, it's like, what if this episode
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isn't good enough? Or what if no one likes it? Or
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what are listeners going to think about this? And when
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it comes to, you know, doing other things around the house, like, you know, cooking
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dinner or cleaning the house or doing laundry, it's like,
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it'd be so much more fun to go do this other thing. And
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so it becomes tempting to just avoid it altogether.
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But when I lean into that, for the most part, mentality, it
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really grounds me and it reminds
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myself of why I'm doing these things,
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why am I creating a podcast? Why am I,
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you know, building a life coaching business for women? And it's
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to serve God and to serve others through this work.
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It's reminding myself that he's given me these gifts and these
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opportunities and that I'm doing this not
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just for me and the things that can come out of it in my life,
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but also to serve the Lord, to further his kingdom, to help make
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other people's lives better, for. For other people to open
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their lives up to how the Lord is going to transform it. And
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then that creates that ripple effect. And this shift
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helps me push past that discomfort and take
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the next step, even if it isn't perfect. But
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we all do this in so many different areas of our lives, right?
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We avoid setting these meaningful goals or
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pursuing our dreams or doing the things that
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we know we need to do to, you know, push the needle forward,
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because, you know, it does. It is challenging and it
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requires hard work. But I think deep down, part of one of the
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big reasons why we don't do the things that we know we need
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to do is because it's easier not to
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do them. It's just easier to stay in these
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comfort zones, to stay in that familiar familiarity, even if
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we don't really like it. It's just easier to stay here. And then we end
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up telling ourselves, you know, it's okay, it's okay that I didn't do
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that. It's okay that I didn't, you know, go after this thing because it
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just wasn't meant to be. But
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deep down, we know that that's not true. We know that
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we didn't even put the effort into that, right? And we just try to
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talk ourselves out of it was that just wasn't meant to be. That wasn't part
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of God's plan. And maybe that's not really true.
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Maybe it is part of God's plan. But you
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wanted to stay in that comfort zone, because often we're
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just afraid of the hard work. I know I am, and I can fully
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admit that, that sometimes I am so afraid of what any of
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this requires of me. The unknown or the
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possibility of a failure or possibility of not getting the
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outcome that I really desire. And I think that
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it perpetuates that experience of just
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going through the motions. Right? We just get stuck
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in going through the motions of life because we're
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not willing to put ourselves out there. We're not willing to do the hard
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work. And so nothing is really challenging us to grow.
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And this is where this concept of
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growing through the motions, a phrase that I first heard
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from Father Mike Schmidt, comes into play. He has a
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whole, like, homily series on growing through the motions. And he
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talks about how when we are, we're doing things over
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and over again, like going to mass or our prayer
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life, it's easy to lose sight of the meaning behind why
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we are doing these things. We start to just go through the
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motions without really connecting. And his
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challenge to us is to seek meaningful connection with God in
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everything we do. And I really think this idea of
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growing through the motions can apply through so many areas of our
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lives when we are doing the things that we need to know how to do.
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But we're like, well, this isn't getting us anywhere, or this
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isn't challenging us, or. Or, you know, we stay. We're staying
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stuck in our comfort zones. This idea of growing through the motions
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can really help us. I mean, what if we looked
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at our daily tasks, even those mundane ones, as
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opportunities to love and serve God? You know, cooking
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dinner, folding laundry, or even sending out an email can
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actually be acts of faithfulness and obedience
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when done with the right heart. Instead of seeing these things
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as obligations, we can see them as
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privileges or opportunities that we get to
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do these things that not have to do these things.
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And for me, this perspective has really been a game
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changer. When I find myself being tempted to
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binge Netflix instead of working on the podcast, I can ask
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myself, you know, am I being faithful to the gifts God has given
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me? Am I stewarding my time and my talents well?
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And while sometimes rest is really that faithful choice,
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there are other times that I'm realizing I'm just avoiding
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the harder, more meaningful work. Or I'm avoiding it
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because I can't see the reason why I'm doing this. I can't see
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the outcome that's coming. That if I just stay faithful and I show up every
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week to doing a pod to doing these podcast episodes or sending the
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emails or folding the laundry or cleaning the house, that that's all
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going to lead to something much greater than I can even imagine.
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That it's about being obedient and faithful to the Lord, because that's what
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he asks of us. So I just want to
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share five practical tips to really help you embrace this, for
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the most part, mentality. So the first one is to define your
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why. We've talked about this in previous episodes. But having that
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why, that deep why, and getting clear on your goals and
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your values, that why are you pursuing this
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habit or this dream or this calling? Why is the Lord
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asking you to do these mundane tasks over and over and over
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again? What is that deeper why? And then two,
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start small. Remember, that smallest step,
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like that 10 minute walk, is still
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progress. Don't dismiss the little things,
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don't dismiss the little wins. Those are the things that are
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going to help you grow through the motions. And
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then number three, give yourself grace, y'all.
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Life happens. There are going to be days that
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we miss the mark or we choose not to show up.
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And that is okay. Remember,
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we're going to have to reroute in life because we miss the exit
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that God may put that billboard up there, but we just missed the exit
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and we're gonna have to reroute. What matters is
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learning how to, you know, get back on track to
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recommit, to ask the Lord to help you, you know,
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reroute and figure out the next right step. But don't
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self condemn, don't beat yourself up. This is,
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this is all about the journey, right? Remember, God's
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plan for us takes a lifetime. And then number four, focus
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on consistency, not perfection. Figure
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out what it is that you're showing up for, for the most part. What are
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the things that you are doing for the most part, rather than
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striving to a hundred percent complete everything
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every single day. That when we
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show up with consistency, not perfection, that we are allowing grace
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to infuse our days, that we are allowing mercy and compassion
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for ourselves and for others. And then number
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five, inviting God into that process, that
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prayer for guidance, for perseverance, for strength
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and clarity and remembering that we are not doing this
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alone, that God is with you every step of the way. One of
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my favorite prayers every day is to ask the Lord to
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take my efforts and to multiply them, to take the
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small tasks that I'm doing every single day and to multiply
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him, because that is what he does. He takes our loaves and
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fishes and he creates abundance out of
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them. And so y'all, this for the most part
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mentality is really about freedom. It's the freedom from the
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pressure to be perfect and the freedom to grow in
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God's grace. And when we are faithful in the small
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everyday things, God's using that to prepare us
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for the bigger things that we cannot see, for the seasons of
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abundance, but even for those times of suffering
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that when we are faithful him to him and the good and the
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bad, that he's going to provide for us.
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Right? Father Schmitz and his growing through,
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growing through the seasons. One of the things he talks about is to
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pray. Like we want to pray in every season. Well, to pray in every season,
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we have to pray in every season, right? It's about
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showing up and doing the things that the Lord is asking us to do.
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So let's embrace the journey to trust the
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process and remember that every step we take, no matter how small
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it is, is just part of this greater purpose.
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So if this episode resonated with you, if you
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had something that really stuck out to you, I'd love to hear from you.
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What's one small step that you can take today towards your
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goals or dreams? What is that? For the most part, thing that you showing
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up for. I'd love to hear it. You can share it with me on social
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media or just leave it in a review on the podcast. And I
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want to remind you to not forget about our upcoming Goal Setting with
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God workshop that's taking place on Wednesday, February
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5th. I think that's the day. Ah, Wednesday
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February 5th. And that workshop is kicking off our
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Bloom and Motherhood membership which is all about week
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monthly workshops that are going to help you grow in living this Christ
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centered life. That's going to help you root your identity in
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in Christ. That's going to help you have more clarity
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and more confidence in what he is calling you to. So you can learn more
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about the membership and register for the
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workshop@community.caratro.com you
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can also find the link in the show notes. But when you click there or
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you go there, you're going to scroll to the bottom of that page and then
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you're going to click on the option that says Bloom and Mother
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Bloom in Motherhood Membership. Click that sign
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up and we will get started. So thanks again
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for joining me and I will see you right back here next week.
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But until then, I hope you have a beautiful and blessed week.
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Remember, beauty held is the seed, beauty shared is the
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flower. It is your time to bloom. Take
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care and God bless.
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Have you ever paused to think about what it truly means to enjoy a meal—without guilt, rules, or second-guessing yourself? Especially during Lent, when you're striving to grow in faith, the whispers of diet culture can creep in: Are you sure you should eat that? This week on the Nourished to Bloom Podcast (Episode 53!), we're exploring how ea...
Ep. 52 Fasting Beyond Food: 5 Ways to Fast from Diet Culture this Lent
Hey there, have you ever found yourself caught in the cycle of giving up certain foods during Lent, hoping it would bring you closer to faith (and shed some pounds), but instead you give up 2 weeks in because you just can’t stick with it? This week, on the Nourish to Bloom podcast, we starting a transformative journey that flips the script on...